Parents

A lot of us are worried about our parents during this time & it’s bringing up a lot of deep feelings. For some of us, were struggling with how to deal with our feelings regarding their “behaviors” ... meaning, they’re doing what they want & not necessarily staying at home & being careful & it’s driving us nuts.

Yelling at our parents cause we’re worried about them is not going to change their behavior. They’ve been around a lot longer than us & they’ve been through shit in their lives that a little anger from their kids isn’t gonna shift their behavior.

Banging on your parents is not going to ultimately take care of all the unhealed fear & anxiety that dwells deep within us. But that’s like anything in life; trying to control people’s behavior, to keep us from feeling a certain way or dealing with our issues is not going to work ... but that never stops people from trying.

You’re going to have to find another way with which to talk with them & you’re going to have to let go of control & start to deal with your feelings of loss & the thought that they aren’t going to be around forever.

You might be thinking that this is a bit morbid of me to talk like this, but it’s not. Put another way; it’s healthy to let go of trying to control your parents behavior just to try & assuage you’re fears of losing them. Yelling at them is not going to help them live longer & it’s certainly not going to heal your fears in the process.

Find another way with your folks; don’t just use one method of communication style to reach them, try others. Maybe try using a little humor, it’ll probably go a long way. Deal with your feelings of worry & sadness of the possibility of not having your parents around forever. As you deal with your feelings of loss, you may or may not start to see their behaviors change; regardless, you’ll appreciate the time you have with then a whole lot more if you do ... & they will too♥️