Did you read my last email about being 50 & married?

I shared that to catch you up on my life … if you know me, you know it’s been easier for me to share the struggles & difficult times in my life, rather than the good times & when things are going well.

I also wanted to paint a picture of my mindset & adversity, to illustrate feeling like I was a bit of a revenant: someone who’s fought their way back from the dead.

For many years, I felt like a train that had derailed off its tracks, leaving behind miles of personal “belongings” thrown about the cars & tossed along side of the train as far as the eye could see. I felt like I was hurled onto a journey, to take inventory of the “accident” (my mistakes & missteps), & take a closer look at how I got to that place in my life.

For years, I totally committed to healing, resolving, rectifying & reinventing myself at all costs.

Some say that coaches shouldn’t share about their struggles as it may reduce their credibility when it comes to guiding others.

An alternative way of looking at this, is that those practitioners who have the security to share their process & reveal their inner-workings with others, is in fact what gives them credibility.

Healing, transformation, personal development & one's evolution is dirty business - it can certainly be a dog fight. Even in the best of times, it’s a formidable journey to take on, let alone during these challenging times.

Anyone trying to tell you that it doesn’t have to look like that, most likely hasn’t changed a whole heck of a lot about themselves, or their lives for that matter.

There’s an innate healing life force that flows throughout our mind & body.

So, since the body naturally seeks to always heal itself, regardless of what’s happening, how can we align with it & optimize healing?

Get out of its way.

… not, have, do, be.

These days, it's common to use mottos like …

“Rest when you’re dead,” “Can’t stop won’t stop,” “Rise & grind,” “Beast mode” … as motivation to propel people toward their goals.

So it’s no shock that many in our culture follow the “Do, have, be” model as a way of living … but it’s not optimal, & here’s why.

⚡️The shortest distance between two points is a straight line, so learning from someone who already has what you want is an optimal way to achieve your goals.⁣⁣

⚡️A coach has already made many of the foreseeable mistakes we’re sure to experience along our path; why not learn from these & possibly avoid them altogether. ⁣⁣

When we commit to something, we’re also committing to all the things we’re not going to do … and with that comes a sense of loss.

Even if the thing that we’re committing to is positive or has benefit for us, it will still bring about feelings of grief & loss.

⚡️Specifically designed to help people connect & integrate the physical, emotional, energetic & spiritual body, to help them see how they all relate. 

⚡️It’s ability to work at such deep levels necessary to reach aspects of our mind, body & spirit. 

⚡️Arguing to prove them wrong, as opposed to being curious about how they might be correct about something.

Not agreeing with everything is healthy; in fact some need to learn this, however not knowing the difference between fighting for something vs. fighting against something is key.

Being a coach or healer is not an exact science. If it needs to be categorized, it’s more of an art, than anything else.

Helping people can be tricky business. All of us have outdated alliances with unhealthy habits that no longer serve us; but because they’ve served us in certain situations of our past, we think they still work. Left unchecked, we can fail to actually look to see if that’s actually true.

It’s no easy task to be “in the world, but not of it," especially during these times.

Learning how to be connected with people & the culture we live in, but at the same time not be loyal to all the dysfunctional ways of being is no easy task …

Whether we choose to “do the work” or not, pain will always be a part of our lives.

When I say “do the work,” I’m referring to being committed to our evolution & constantly working to develop.

A lot of people seldom ask themselves this question when they’re in a session, however the difference is huge.

It’s okay to disagree & struggle with the coaching, however it’s the way you disagree that can make the difference.

The body is a communication center that houses all kinds of vital experiences, memories, traumas, desires & communications … & connecting with them is imperative for optimal health & healing to occur.

If what shows up in our (crazy) minds, also shows up in the body, then we can surely expect the body is always communicating with us about something … if only we would listen to it - the body talks.

Most people have heard of the mind-body connection, but they might not be able to physically FEEL that connection.

They don’t physically feel the relationship of how their unresolved feelings about all sorts of things, affects their health & body.

This might be a new concept for some, but it’s vital to understand nonetheless.

As a teacher of mine always says, “it’s all about communication.” What he means by this, is that no matter what's going on in your life, or what may be troubling you, being in communication about it, is vital for liberation & healing.

The more obvious type of coaching is the verbal communication-style, which provides clarity & feedback that helps people navigate all kinds of things.

This traditional kind of coaching is what most might expect to receive from a coach. It seeks to help people connect to their emotions with the use of specific communications & words.